JeffsKids.Com: October 2013

I saw a photo of my daughter recently. She was wearing a sweatshirt and necklace that I bought her as a gift for her birthday. I was very excited to see this, because I haven’t had a relationship with my daughter, or my son, since early 2008. I thought, “she can’t be that mad at me if she’s wearing the gifts I sent her.”

My excitement was squashed when a friend of mine asked if I thought she knew the gifts were from me. This thought hadn't occurred to me. I thought “no, my ex wouldn’t do that”, but then again, I never thought she’d make good on her promise that if anything ever happened to our marriage I would never see my children again. I stayed in a loveless marriage just to be with my kids. I would be lying if I said I didn’t feel disappointed and manipulated.

So, I’ve started this blog in hopes that my children will see it and know how much I love and miss them ~ always have and always will. I will never ever give up on them, and my heart and my door will always be open and waiting, no questions asked. And speaking of questions, maybe reading this will cause them to question some of the things they have heard, or not heard, or been led to believe. They are smart kids, I'm sure they will be able to see through the fog surrounding them eventually.

Sunday, October 27, 2013

Funny How Genetics Works, huh

I'm sure I've said it once or twice before on here, and the JeffsKids.com Facebook page, and the JeffsKidsDotCom Twitter page....that my kids both look exactly like me, there is no mistaking the fact they are my kids. My daughter looks like me now - the shape of her face, her eyes, her smile, some of her mannerisms, and definitely her sense of humor (ok, so that last one is not appearance related, but it is genetic). And my son looks like me at his age - his hair and hair line, ears, eye and face structure, his nose and lips, when he smiles, and of course his book smarts (same disclaimer as above), all of which is becoming more and more evident as he gets older. What really struck me was this old photo I found of me in college. I looked right at it and said "whoa, there's Patrick." Those of you reading who know him, and me, can probably guess where I am in this photo. Good thing I wasn't sporting a 'stache yet at that point, lol. Science is a wonderful thing :)