I saw a photo of my daughter recently. She was wearing a sweatshirt and necklace that I bought her as a gift for her birthday. I was very excited to see this, because I haven’t had a relationship with my daughter, or my son, since early 2008. I thought, “she can’t be that mad at me if she’s wearing the gifts I sent her.”
My excitement was squashed when a friend of mine asked if I thought she knew the gifts were from me. This thought hadn't occurred to me. I thought “no, my ex wouldn’t do that”, but then again, I never thought she’d make good on her promise that if anything ever happened to our marriage I would never see my children again. I stayed in a loveless marriage just to be with my kids. I would be lying if I said I didn’t feel disappointed and manipulated.
So, I’ve started this blog in hopes that my children will see it and know how much I love and miss them ~ always have and always will. I will never ever give up on them, and my heart and my door will always be open and waiting, no questions asked. And speaking of questions, maybe reading this will cause them to question some of the things they have heard, or not heard, or been led to believe. They are smart kids, I'm sure they will be able to see through the fog surrounding them eventually.
Wednesday, June 30, 2010
June 2010
Both my children have class trips they will be going on. I sent each of them a card with a little extra spending money for their trips. My daughter will have an end of year concert that I would love to go to, and I'm sure my son's baseball season is in full swing. My children told their law guardian they do not want me at their sporting events and extracurricular activities without being invited. What do you think are the odds of my being invited? My daughter has always loved to act and sing and my son has always been into his sports. I coached my son's baseball team for years and loved every minute spending time with him and his friends. I like seeing them enjoy those activities.
They will both spend their summer at various day camps. Most likely my son will go to a few sports camps and my daughter will go to a few church camps. I remember all the fun we had each summer dropping them off at a week long church camp in the Adirondacks. We would go hiking together and have a nice dinner. Sometimes my father and step mother would join us. I hope my children remember and cherish those good times as much as I do. I'm sure they are still having good times in the summer.
Father's Day - third one without my children and not so much as a phone call from them. I wonder if they think about me as much as I think about them. My friends and family call, and that means a lot to me, but not nearly as much as if I could hear from my children. I feel my father's pain for all the years I never called him. The irony is mind boggling.
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